Not everyone you develop feelings for is meant to be your lover. Some relationships are best enjoyed if kept at friendship level (friend-zone). Numerous relationships which seem promising end up with both parties deeply hurt and vengeful despite the fact that their friendship was the envy of many people.
The fact that you know and understand each other so well, support each other's dreams and communicate freely and when you're together you forget that you have phones doesn't mean it would do that well if upgraded to relationship level.
Love cannot be replaced with ordinary affection. Because it is virtually impossible to have an intimate friend and an iota of affection wouldn't develop (regardless of whether you're the same or opposite sex). That is why it isn't advisable to have an opposite sex as a best friend when you are already in a relationship.
Why then does relationships which seemed promising from close friendship doesn't last most times? Based on personal experience I know that when you get into a relationship flaws become clearer and glaring. Flaws which seemed negligible during friendship because you felt afterall we're not dating and therefore that shouldn't bother you. You don't care if she doesn't remember details or he has numerous female friends. But now that he/she is now in a relationship with you you felt that he/she should change such habits because of you. And when such conflicts arise it ends up destroying the relationship because even though you were committed to the friendship yet it's obvious you both cannot stay committed to a relationship with each other.
Assistance and support which you would offer in friendship without hesitation, now you're thinking it twice that if you sacrifice so much for this person and you end up being betrayed you would lose and be heartbroken and then such doubts make you start holding back from expressing your love, care and affection. You become afraid of being committed totally. In a little time the seeming castle comes crashing down.
The best relationships start with friendship but you have to learn to recognize true love before venturing into it.
© Afolayan Philips (VENUS)
VENUS CONCEPTS
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